1 Out Of 3

“Pretending to be happy when you’re alone is an example of how strong you are as a person.
Take care of your thoughts when you’re alone. And take care of your words when you’re with people. We are all so much together but we are all dying of loneliness.”
– Albert Schweitzer

The struggle I face the most is the loneliness of living alone. I remember in my thirties thinking I just want to be alone. Life was chaotic and I just wanted peace and quiet. Solitude was what I thought I wanted. Be careful what you wish for right?

Loneliness happens when you realize the relationships in your life aren’t fulfilling to you. When sudden life changes leave you going to bed and waking up all by yourself. You become lonely. All you begin to hunger for is just someone to enjoy the day with. Someone to talk to. Somebody to go to an event with. A companion to travel a cruise with. Someone to go watch a movie or shop a flea market with. Someone to come over for dinner and a movie. All your heart wants is someone to talk to and share your life with…but there is no one there. Not one person for you.

The reality is most times weeks will go by and not one conversation even happens outside of you and your furr baby. You give invites to friends and family even offering to pay their way only to be told sorry we are busy and can’t make it. Perhaps even worst is you get no reply back from them at all. Ouch! A simple “No” would have been considered a conversation to you. Afterall, it would have been interaction you had not had in a while.

You begin to isolate yourself even more. You go further into depression…further into feeling unloved. You sense rejection at every turn. Yes, living alone hurts and it is no joke.

A recent study from the HRSA.gov website says 1 out of 3 people today live alone. That’s staggering when you think about it…

Loneliness effects health and mental well being. When you begin to have health issues that hinders you from being as active or even driving places alone you feel defeated. A loss of your independence to living life has happened. We want to live life like everyone else. We want to go out and enjoy a concert or movie but no one you know is available to assist and attend with you.

That’s the moment when your mind starts lying to you telling you that no one wants to be with you. No one really cares about you. You could die in your sleep but would anyone care? These become the familiar voices you hear in your head day after day. Night after night as you eat alone. As you crawl into bed alone. Some days you don’t want to shower or dress because you don’t see any reason too. Afterall, you aren’t going anywhere. No one will see you. Day after day there is no one who checks in. You begin to fear the “what if’s”…”what if” a medical emergency happens, and “what if” no one finds you until it’s too late. “What if” I fell and broke my hip or “what if” I suffered a stroke and I couldn’t talk or move? How long would I lay on the floor before I died or how long before I was rescued? Will the floor be my final resting place where I take my last breath? These are not feelings of self pity here these are the “what if” feelings of the fearful reality for seniors and singles who live alone every single day. The 1 out of 3 who don’t have regular close relationships with family and friends for whatever reason.

If this is you like it is me…now is the time to grasp your truth. We’re in a season of loneliness and there is not a dern thing we can do to immediately change it. Trust me I tried. Go back up a few paragraphs to the place I said I’ve given several invites out and no responses. It’s just a lonely hard fact: we are alone!  We are the 1 out of 3 lonely.

It’s the Lonely Port place I call it. It’s the time we must look deeply within ourselves to realize our joy isn’t made complete by the relationships of others. It’s time to find the joy that can only come from our Lord. His promise is to never leave us nor forsake us. There is a special joy He has just for those who know Him. We just have to seek it and find it.

His Joy doesn’t require there to be another human soul in it’s existence. His Joy is made complete in Christ alone. It can fill and satisfy that emptiness of being single. We are made to be in relationship with others He designed us He knows this. That first most important and lifegiving relationship begins in Jesus Christ. If you don’t personally have a relationship with Him it is simple to get. Just ask Him He says. Call upon the name of The Lord and you will be saved. Admit you tried doing life without Him and you were wrong. You need Him to enter your heart and become Your Lord. When you do this your loneliness will change. You will still struggle but you will never struggle alone again. His hope now lives in you and me.

When your hope has been thrashed. And your thoughts have become lies. It’s time to put on the Joy of the Lord and wear it. Time to put on a spirit of praise and gratefulness. Make sure everyday we dress up in the whole armor of God and be filled completely by His Spirit.

We can choose to put away that spirit of loneliness. Change our perspective mindset and trust that when we have a relationship with Jesus Christ then we are never ever alone.

Let us give thanks today for He is good and His love and mercy endures forever. Let us relinquish our pain and sorrow and allow the Lord of our life to turn our mourning into dancing.

He never responds with I am too busy. He will never ignore your request. He will always answer. He is always there.

The Love Journey Begins…

Thanks for riding along!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

God wants to be loved for Himself, but that is only part. He also wants us to know that when we have Him we have everything.—-A.W. Tozer

 

My Best Life For Eternity

Today, I visited The Free life Church in Forney. It was a message about living your best life now. Again, a very timely message for me to hear. I love the beauty of the body of Christ known as The Church. The diversity of cultures and people that were there worshipping Jesus Christ was beautiful. No matter where we go the body if Christ is one body made up of many people. We can find God anywhere we seek Him. The message reminded me of our eternity. The Pastor spoke about how we all tend to live life for us focused on our short time we have on this earth… But without a thought of how we will spend more time living out our life in eternity. It’s so true. We tend to think we have a good 80 to 100 years if we’re blessed to live out our lives. Then we die and it’s all over. We do everything we can to experience our short time hear without the thought we will spend a gatrillion gazillion lifetimes living in eternity in the New Jerusalem. None of us will ever die forever. We will die and either we will live out an eternity in heaven or an eternity in hell. We live our life and it’s but a vapor we have to live it here. Those who know Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior will die for a season until they are resurrected again with Christ to live out an eternity with Him in the New Jerusalem. The new place He has been preparing for us. If Christ has gone to prepare a place for us to spend eternity with Him what are we doing to help Him. What are we doing to invest in our eternity? Are we living our best life surrendered and sold out for Christ, serving Him and serving others who we will spend an eternity there? I confess I am not doing my part being 100% sold out for eternity. I am far from living my best life. I honestly serve myself more than I serve others. I spend more time doing what I want to do then doing what Christ wants me to do. It’s a message God is driving home hard to me. A message I need pounded on my heart. Changes are needed from within me. Changes of perspective from the now to the eternity needs to happen. Lord Jesus, I surrender to serve you with all that I am and all that I have. I want to be used by you…I want to do your will not my own. I want to serve others more than myself. I want to help others find their best life too. It has to start with me first. I can only change and grow me. Today. Right now. No more excuses. Time to walk the walk and talk the talk 24/7 for me. Time to live my best life to spend an eternity with Jesus. The King of All Kings. The Lion of Judah. The Great I Am. Are you with me?

Watch “Way Maker Lyric” on YouTube

I learned this new worship song at church…it ministered to my heart so greatly and so timely reminding me that God always makes a way when it seems impossible for there to be a way. He is the way maker…the miracle worker…that is who He is. So many times when I thought my life was over or I couldn’t see a way out of my circumstances He would always find a way to give me that “parting of the red sea experience” just like he gave the children of Israel. He was there for them and He has always been there for me. Sometimes I have to get to the end of myself and move out of His way so He can show me the way. But He never leaves me alone. He’s always there in the midst of my faith crisis. He always has made a way for me when I could see no way through the pain or difficulty. That’s the beauty of knowing Him and His character. The miracle of who He is…it is the miracle of realizing He is that same God today as He was yesterday…the same God who gave all the miracles to the people in the Bible thousands of years ago. He is still that same miracle worker who spared Daniel from the Lion’s Den…the same God who healed the sick, the lame and the blind…the same God who heals us from the pains of our past…He is The Way Maker the Way to reconcile our lost souls and hearts to Him and Jesus’ forgiveness…the same God yesterday, today and forever. That is who He is hallelujah!… I pray you find some time to remember who He is to you and turn your eyes and heart to worship Him. He is worthy of all our love and praise.

We All Are Called…We All Have A Role & A Purpose…

Do you ever ask yourself, What is my purpose? What does God want me to do in my role as His child? Do you question how to use the gifts and talents Jesus has indwelled within you? These are valid questions we find we are often asking of God.

Our lives were completely changed the moment we asked Christ into our hearts. The Bible says the old has passed away and we are made new. We are born again into the image of Christ. Our desires and our old wants have changed. It can be very challenging trying to find what our role, or purpose or our place in service to our Lord should be in our new skin.

Our “role” is completely separate from our purpose in Christ. By this I mean it is our role to serve the Lord with all our heart, soul, mind and strength… that is constant. Jesus saved us to serve and worship Him. That is our forever role as His children.

Our purpose is the means by which He calls us and equips us to walk in those roles. The purpose is the manner we go about serving Him as His children. He is our Lord.

Our role will always be to seek and serve Jesus first. Our purpose, is the calling in which He has gifted us to do that. Some are called the Bible says to be teachers and evangelists or Prophets or Administrators or Caregivers and so on. We all are called and gifted by the Holy Spirit of God for His good works. These are the spiritual gifts He has given us to accomplish His will and purpose in our individual lives for the building up of the body of Christ.

Our “role” to seek and serve Jesus first will never change it remains as our directional compass guiding us while here on this earth. Our purposes in doing His will will be fulfilled in the circumstances, and surroundings He puts within our pathway. Seeing our purpose sometimes can become a bit hazy because of our life adversities or circumstances that we face. It gets hazy as some situations we find ourselves walking in we may have never faced them before. Such as a divorce, or death of a loved one. Sometimes a life change or career move can move us to a new “normal” and we find ourselves questioning what is our purpose now? How do I serve God in the midst of my painful circumstances?

We must be fluid enough to sense the purpose of God within our adversities. This can seem impossible at times. When we’re hurting we may find being sensitive to the Leading of His Spirit is almost impossible to do as our life focus changes. But we can remain hopeful in knowing our “Role in Christ” or our identity in Christ as His children will never change. It always remains ever present always strong within our adversities.

I have served in my role as a christian, as a child of God, while suffering through hardships. My purpose, my calling as a teacher in my spiritual giftedness has flowed from many different veins. I have taught in many genres of service but always in the same purpose of giftedness at work within me. I am called and gifted to teach but I didn’t always stand before a classroom and teach, there have been times when the genre changed and I would sit one on one and share the gospel of God’s love with another person I met along the way. There have been times when the genre became my writing as the avenue of means for my gifts of teaching and exhortation to be used. There have been times while on vacations when I would sense God’s purpose being done in me as I sat on a beach in another teaching genre and shared Christ’s healing with another hurting individual. My role of serving Christ has never changed. My purposes have taken on new methods but my role remains eternal. It is my first and foremost calling to serve Him wherever I am and wherever His path leads me.

My secondary means is my purpose to serve Him by His Spirit and giftedness as I live my life everyday. Minister as you go is accomplishing your purpose in Christ. We don’t have to get trapped up in looking for what God’s will is for our lives if we know that our role is seperate from our purpose. We are all called to love the Lord and serve Him only that is our role.

If we are confident in our role as children of God we find trusting Him with our purpose comes what may. We need not worry what it is we just need to walk in our roles and His purpose will be revealed as we folliw Him.

It’s my responsibility to remain obedient to the disciplines of my spiritual growth, by remaining in The Word and diligent in Prayer everyday. My responsibility to be equipped and prepared and to stay nourished and healthy in my walk with Christ is as vital as my next breath. I must be ready at every corner and every avenue to give an answer to the hope that is within me. I must be ready to serve in my purpose.

It is my role to serve Jesus with my whole being and to share my purpose through the giftedness from God’s love toward others. This is my calling. This is my purpose. This is my reason for living.

No more doubting my role or purpose from this point forward. I will walk boldly by His Grace and Goodness and trusting in His pathway to hope, peace and forgiveness for all.

Wherever He leads me I will go. Wherever I go He will lead me. My purpose will be fulfilled as I take each breath. It happens daily as I seek and serve Him with all of my heart.

Knowing this, believing this and trusting in “my role” as a child of God…it is enough. I need not doubt or question. I can walk by faith knowing He has a plan for my life.. a role and a purposs to do “His Will” …it will happen and it always will be sufficient for the day ahead.

Wisdom from Life — Streaming Love Ministries

Wisdom from Life

After reading a thought provoking post with my granddaughter about relationships and who we are as women, this was what God laid on my heart in response to her. What I realize most is we truly do gain wisdom from our life experiences. To go back and change our choices is impossible. However, to learn from them and get understanding is the beginning of gaining wisdom. Throughout God’s word we see the value of wisdom, especially seeking wisdom from our elders. When we are young, we think we know it all and rarely listen to the counsel of our parents or elders. As I reflected on this, I realized the richness I missed in my life by refusing to heed the wisdom of those who have had more life experiences than I had.

Through much hardship and toil, I have learned the wisdom of knowing what a healthy thriving relationship looks like. I realize how not knowing who you are, and what you want in your own life is key to being trapped in an unhealthy and unsatisfying relationship.

Today, I realize how growing together takes two people who want their partner to become the best “them” they can be. It is a “Selfless Love” that wants the best for you and wants to have the best with you. The unselfish love derives from an ongoing desire based on a mutual love and respect for each other. It begins from the start of the relationship and can never be allowed to stop on either fronts.

Growth is an action word, a wheel that should never stop rolling. If one person stops that rolling wheel it will stunt the other partner’s potential to grow and becone their best self. Eventually, that wheel will stop moving and the rot will begin to set in. The rot becomes death to the relationship. This can happen no matter how long you’ve been together in the relationship. The wheel must continue to turn. That’s why the saying goes, ” A relationship takes alot of work”.

Death of a relationship can happen with a dim slow fade. I know this personally from experience. After 28 years of marriage, the slow fade became a complete blackout in my relationship.

The challenge for us all is to see what is “the” reality and what is the “hoped for” reality. We can’t exist in a “hoped for” reality status of a relationship. We have to remember and know we can never fix anyone, love them into behavioral change or heal their faults and pains away for them.

We have to be honest with ourselves. We have to see them for who they are at their core values and belief system. Then we have to look honestly at ourselves to see if what they want, desire and believe matches up with what we want, believe and desire in our own life.

The core value of a person can only change by their own desire to be changed. They may stop for us temporarily but eventually they will see it’s not what they really wanted and in result they return to their old ways.

True change only happens from a person’s complete surrender to God and and a choice to die to our own selfish ways. That’s nothing we can ever do for another person.

Our growth begins to happen when we are true to ourselves and choose not to settle for anything less than God’s best for our lives.

If we ever have doubt that a relationship isn’t good for us than more often than not it isn’t. There is always a realm of truth that exists within our doubt. We just need to ooen our eyes and see it. We can’t wish away our partner’s undesireable behaviour. It must be handled with gloves of truth and honesty. It’s so easy to push what we “hope for” from our minds. We easily set it aside for the sake of others, for our own desire or “idea” of love. We close our eyes because of our circumstances, for the sake of our kids, for fear of being alone or for fear of being unloved.

The hard part is trusting that God has a plan for us and believing that His plan is best and because we are worth waiting for it. He promises us in His Word if we are patient and seek Him with all our heart, soul, mind and strength then He will give us the desires of our heart.

I wish I would have gained this wisdom at a younger age instead of choosing to go my own way. I wished I had known not to seek the love of a man, acceptance from others or material things to try and gain happiness and contentment in my life. Had I gained the wisdom at a youthful age, I certainly could have saved alot of hardship to myself and my loved ones.

The good news is God still has a plan. His ways are higher than our ways. His plan is always the best plan for us. It’s also never too late to begin to walk in that plan. I am 58 years old and I have just begun that walk myself. How thankful I am to know who I am at my core, to know what healthy relationships look like and what my value and purpose in life is.

I could have begun much sooner but I have no regrets here. Some people never find godly wisdom. I am blessed and grateful to have gained the wisdom in life. It is because I know my identity in Jesus Christ that I can honestly say I am living my best life now.

Live Freely

My counsel is this: Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit. Then you won’t feed the compulsions of selfishness. For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with selfishness. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day. Why don’t you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence? It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on. This isn’t the first time I have warned you, you know. If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God’s kingdom. But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely. Legalism is helpless in bringing this about; it only gets in the way. Among those who belong to Christ, everything connected with getting our own way and mindlessly responding to what everyone else calls necessities is killed off for good—crucified. Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.
Galatians 5:16‭-‬23‭, ‬23‭-‬26 MSG
https://bible.com/bible/97/gal.5.16-26.MSG

Every day I live I fight a battle within my own spirit. It begs the questions…Do I seek only the things that I want?… Does absolutely everything need to go my way?…Are my own desires and ideas more golden than yours?… Do I wake up changed from my selfish thinking by renewing my mind to God’s perspective?

I. 👏Only. 👏Wish👏.

The real truth is I don’t do the things which I want to do. I throw fits and easily get angry when I am told “no” or “not now”. I am a born again child of God but my daily struggle with my flesh is very real. It has the strength of an million man army at times. There are days when I find myself walking into that fire of anger because my spouse isn’t doing exactly what I want him to do… when I want him to do it… and in the manner I know it should be done.

I seem to walk straight into the crevices of my bitterness because life has not worked out the way I thought it should.

If only it were my “natural” instinct to be patient with others and forgive quickly. To trust wholeheartedly and walk by faith. To live without an ounce of fear. To rest in the hammock of love God has there hanging just for me.

Instead, the natural instinct of my spirit is to make bad decisions and to like bad habits. To find fault and render self sabotage. It’s easier to drive in the well known ruts of lousy communication and ugly discord. This is what I instinctively do. This folks is the reality of the skin that covers my bones.

Change…real change of my behaviors, thoughts and decisions requires me in every circumstance to die to what it is I want and to live in the dominance of the Holy Spirit of God. To without hesitation know that the sins of my fleshly nature have been covered by a Crucified Christ.

Whenever I walk by The Spirit and not in my own skin I can breathe in fresh air of relief. I can believe that God will lead me into His ways A.K.A. the better pathway. Where I am satisfied to find His Joy and Peace ruling and reigning in my soul.

This is the good gift God has planned for us. A life of freedom. The key to unlock our daily battle is in the sword of our complete surrender.

The struggle for my flesh is completely unnatural and derives itself from a prideful, self protecting survivor who struggles with releasing the reins of complete control.

However, I read from God’s word that letting go is the only way possible to walk by The Fruit of The Spirit. And the only way possible to live life freely without bondage.

I want the chains of brokenness gone. I want to experience a life without condemnation. I want to feel loved and completely accepted.

So, why do I fight against the good gifts from above? Why do I struggle living under the protection of a completely satisfied crucifixion? The answer is because I am a living being who is fighting a very real spiritual battle every day. It’s time I put away the desires of my flesh. It’s time I stand and fight. It’s time I walk by faith and not by sight. It’s time I am a doer and not just a hearer of the word.

Today is the day…I want to begin walking by The Spirit living life freely of me, myself and I. Don’t you? It’s time!

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