When I think back on the relationships I have struggled with, for most of them, misunderstandings were the culprits of the road blocks that stood in the way of that relationship moving forward. So for one to have a misunderstanding I think it is logical to say there had to be a lack of understanding at work.

Urban dictionary defines “MISUNDERSTANDING” this way…


“When two people try pursuing a relationship and run into a roadbump where one knows what’s going on and the other is confused and could jump to conclusions. A lot of relationships end like this sadly.”

In order to remove the road block of misunderstanding three letters must be removed from the scene…MIS. Those three letters when removed leave you with “Understanding”. With “understanding” mountains can be moved. Reconciliation can happen. Let’s look closer at what “understanding” means…

Let us look to Urban Dictionary again, as it words it better than I ever could.

“Understanding…This is the main objective of both sides of every story. Each story shall equally be relevant and important. Understanding is imperative, one shall not be allowed to step on another as he or she pleases and get away with it. It doesn’t matter who was right, or wrong. The main objective today is understanding. We are imperfectly made, but our God given strength is understanding, love. If both of you come to an understanding, both shall be at peace. Fighting, revenge, bickering, provoking violence and anger will not work. Adding fuel to fire isn’t favorable.

Do not let yourself be trapped in misunderstandings and hate

Understanding…get along with everyone, try not to make waves.
Try to find the good in all situations, no matter how hard or challenging. Be kind and care for those who have had it hard,
Try understanding, walk a mile in their shoes.
Love the ones close to you as if it might be the last day you ever see them.
You can do all things thru Christ our load who strenghtens us
.”

Wisdom brings understanding. Understanding comes with wisdom. Where do we gain wisdom? Let’s go to the word of God for this answer.

For the Lord gives wisdom;
from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.Proverbs 2:6 | NIV

Fools find no pleasure in understanding
but delight in airing their own opinions.Proverbs 18:2 | NIV

Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.James 3:13 | NIV

The one who gets wisdom loves life;
the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper.Proverbs 19:8 | NIV

Do not deceive yourselves. If any of you think you are wise by the standards of this age, you should become “fools” so that you may become wise.1 Corinthians 3:18 | NIV

Where there is strife, there is pride,
but wisdom is found in those who take advice.Proverbs 13:10 | NIV

All this also comes from the Lord Almighty,
whose plan is wonderful,
whose wisdom is magnificent.Isaiah 28:29 | NIV

Are there relationships in your life that have hit a road bump? Is there conflict unresolved? Does confusion surround you like a dark cloud? I ask the question, Are you seeking wisdom and understanding regarding the other person? Have you done everything possible to remove those three tiny letters of “mis” out of that roadblock. Seeking to understand the feelings of others is not always easy. But with the wisdom from the Lord, and His understanding working through you, and the other person nothing is impossible. With both parties seeking to understand the other it becomes a win-win situation for that relationship to be reconciled. It begins with you and with me being willing to take that first step to remove that block out of the way. Understanding is the gateway to love.